How To Find Peace In A Crazy World
The magic of nurturing yourself.
I don’t need to tell you we’re living in crazy times. The internet and social media have amplified the events of our world unlike any other time in history. Everything has a microscope attached to it these days. Maybe it’s always been like this, and we’re just now aware…
Regardless of how we got here, we find ourselves in an increasingly complex and demanding world that requires us to evolve and adapt if we wish to keep our sanity.
How the outer world covers the inner
The external chaos of our society does a great job of pointing us in new directions to find peace and fulfillment. The more burned out and drained we become, the more we’re forced to seek solutions in new ways. From a spiritual perspective, I see these changes as necessary for our evolution.
The outer demands of the world are tapping our energy and resources, pushing us downward as we realize this isn’t working. Don’t be alarmed. This could be a sign of your evolution.
Drawing away from the outer world of achievement and materialism can be a great time to reflect and reconnect within ourselves to remember who we are.
See, the world shapes and molds us into things, and that’s a good thing, to an extent. It helps us to become functional and valuable members of our society, contributing to the greater whole. Our focus is placed outside of ourselves on careers, money, and success. We need healthy levels of production and output for us to have a functioning society. Still, when the outward drive becomes the ONLY thing we focus on as a culture, it becomes dangerous and damaging.
To bring balance into our lives, we must reconnect within and find the small still voice that has been with us since the beginning. This is our inner child or spiritual self. This self brought with its beliefs, goals, values, and a mission that’s different than only making money.
The external world is loud, so it takes effort and energy to pull away and find our inner self. This isn’t airy-fairy woo stuff, it’s what brings meaning and value into our life, and without it’s no wonder so many are unhappy — especially Millenials.
The inner world is where the gold and glory lie. It’s where truth and love meet to bring about the essence of who we are. It’s the part of us who lives beyond this world and carries on. Without this connection, it’s no wonder life seems meaningless and empty.
Your inner self is key to your happiness
The internal connection is what brings joy, energy, and purpose to life. Taking the time to listen, communicate, and nurture your inner world is the first step toward creating a life of meaning and fulfillment.
The benefits of doing this are incredible. I’ve personally gone through this journey and have witnessed others do the same, and it always transforms people when they’re willing to do the work. You have to be willing to take the time to do the work.
Benefits include:
Rich perspective on the world open to new ideas
New zest and energy for life
A deep sense of connection to life and your fellow humans
Sense of calm and peace that only comes from trusting in Life
Humility for acceptance and patience with yourself
Courage and bravery that comes with reconnecting with your roots
This is by no means an exhaustive list. The benefits from connecting within will be unique to each of us as we resurface parts of ourselves that have been buried for years. When 99% of our energy has been focused outward, there is a lot that can be discovered when you use some of that focus inward.
Simple ways to connect with yourself
Two of the most influential books I’ve ever read have been the Drama of the Gifted Child by Alice Miller and Healing your Aloneness by Erika J. Chopich.
The first book dives into what children deal with who grow up in homes where they are not recognized or seen for their beliefs, thoughts, and feelings. They are treated as objects to fulfill the parent’s plan, almost always unconsciously. This book helped me to feel seen and heard for the first time in my life.
The second book is essentially a workbook on how to connect and empower your inner self or inner child as they refer to it in the book. It gives you tools, exercises, and strategies for loving and handling your inner self. The long-short of it is we need to treat ourselves like the parents we wished we’d always had.
We have to literally parent ourselves
This means sitting down and talking with ourselves about our feelings and thoughts. Let them out freely and unfiltered. When you speak the truth for the first time in your life, some amazing things can start to happen.
I would have conversations with myself out loud as if I were talking to the 8-year-old version of myself. I worked a lot of problems and fears out this way. Journaling is another powerful tool that can be used here.
I would lock myself in my room and have conversations with the little boy in me. I found out what he wanted and what mattered. I found out why he was so angry and hurt. I found out how some of my adult habits like drinking and casual sex were bothering him.
These and many other issues surfaced as I took the time to learn and nurture my inner being. The power of bringing them into our awareness is you realize how many old and outdated beliefs we have that simply are no longer true.
I was no longer dependent on my parents to support and empower my life. I was a working adult, so my spending and habits were up to me. That little boy was no longer at the mercy of adults who had their own needs and wants. I was now able to protect and honor him.
Journaling is another powerful tool that can be used here. It depends on each of us. I found a mix of both worked for me.
The inner shift builds over time
When we begin to reparent and nurture ourselves in ways that we always desired, funny things start to happen. We feel light and free! The most significant shift for me was the noticeable weight that felt lifted from being seen and heard. From there, taking action and supporting my inner child was so thrilling and enjoyable, that I couldn’t get enough!
It’s almost addicting when you start to see the power this holds.
The biggest thing I discovered was how much we could fill ourselves up by being loving and compassionate to our inner selves. This bleeds into how we treat others as well. You begin to see everyone as they are. All of us are figuring it out and learning to heal and grow.
With this awareness, there comes a new sense of connection and power. You no longer need to depend on others and be so vulnerable in the world because we’re not those little kids anymore. We can take care of ourselves.
You don’t have to be miserable and lonely. There are ways to reconnect and find true happiness, but it takes time and effort to make the shift from outer to inner. This shift gives new meaning to our external world as they’re now becoming a true reflection of who we are. By connecting within, we bring our inner world into the world for others to share and enjoy.
Let your inner light shine. 😊🙏